Cheating or to be cheated on in a relationship can be one of the most devastating things to happen in a relationship. It not only pains you emotionally but can have long term damaging effects on your relationship in the future.
This is especially true among young couples since an early trauma of infidelity can scar you for a lifetime.
Many cheaters will put the blame on anything else BUT themselves. That’s because they often only care about themselves and not looking “bad” to others.
If you’re the victim of a cheater, and you still find yourself clinging onto the relationship, you may be wondering if there’s any hope of trusting a cheater.
The odds are against you that a cheater won’t cheat again, however with that said…
people DO have the ability to change, but ONLY if they want to.
And this must be something they want to do for them, and not for anyone else.
So, can you trust a cheater?
The only way you can trust a cheater is if they prove themselves as trustworthy again and again. If they can’t PROVE it with action (not words), then you’re once again going off empty promises.
I’d move slowly with any notorious cheaters, and most of all, consider moving on for good. Like I said, statistically it doesn’t look good. Most cheaters don’t just cheat, they lie about other things too.
Ask yourself how often the cheating has occurred, whether this is the first time or the second, third or 10th time. How many times do you have to make the same mistake before learning from it?
One thing to note is that, you can’t EVER “change” a cheater or hope to “fix” them. Don’t fall into the trap of believing that you can or that they’ll change because you’re supporting them. If they can’t demonstrate their change of ways on their own, it’s probably not going to happen with your help.
Dos and Don’ts:
- If starting a new relationship with a cheater, put the past behind you! Don’t continue to bring up your partner’s old cheating habits.
- If you’re going to give someone a 2nd chance, REALLY give them a second chance.
- Don’t assume just because you’ve been hurt before, that every new guy or girl will hurt you just the same.
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